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Self Care  /  October 30, 2020

10 Unique Self Care Ideas for Women in Their 40s

Back in July I turned forty. And the thing is, I don’t feel old. Or older. I still feel like I’m twenty. I’m still insecure at times, I still act like a kid, I still make stupid mistakes. But I have a lot more life experience tucked under my belt than I did when I was twenty, and I have some tips for us ladies in our forties on practicing self care.

I know self care sounds like a buzz word. Back in 1995 no one talked about self care. But we sure knew a lot of people who needed it because their mom had died, or they worked twenty hours a week on top of being a high school student. They were tired at the very least, likely some were depressed. Depression was a word we heard a lot, but no one really understood what depression was I don’t think. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is, self care isn’t something we are used to practicing but we sure need it. So I am here to tell you what self care is, and some ways to practice this in our forties as well.

What is Self Care?

It’s so simple you’ll laugh. It’s a conscious choice you make to improve your overall physical, emotional and mental health. Do you take a shower? That’s self care because you are cleaning your body, which can prevent disease. That’s a pretty conscious choice too. Do you cut people out of your life because they are not good friends? Likely that is self care too because that individual is potentially toxic. So there you have it. Self care isn’t about a spa day or massages. It’s about taking care of yourself. Yes, it might cost money sometimes, and yes it requires some dedication of time but here’s the thing.

You deserve to spend money on taking care of yourself.

You also deserve to take a time out to simply settle your mind and emotions.

And self care is something everyone needs just like we all need food!

You are, after all, your own greatest investment.

Unique Idea One: Colour a Picture

Colouring is very soothing. And adult colouring books were all the rage a few years ago. Find one that is of interest to you, get yourself a pack of crayons or even some fancy fine tipped markers, and allow yourself to be a child again. Alternatively, grab some free colouring pages off the internet and just colour.

Unique Idea Two: Dim the Lights

Take some time out to turn down the lights. Turn on a Himlaylan salt lamp and some soy or beeswax candles, and enjoy some quiet time with a book or magazine. Too much of our lives is all noise and chaos–TVs on, smartphones beeping and buzzing, kids demanding attention, social media feeds pushing ads and sensational news–turn that all off, take a deep breath and enjoy a quieter, more mindful evening.

Unique Idea Three: Talk a Walk with Yourself

I often see the idea of taking of walk as a self care idea, and it’s a good one. But it also has been stated so many times, it can be easily overlooked. But taking a walk is a great form of self care and I suggest you get out there with yourself and enjoy nature. Don’t just speed walk your way around the block, rather, be mindful. Look up at the clouds, keep your eyes open for birds and maybe stop and take a photo or two of something interesting or beautiful. Be present in nature, in the moment, in yourself. Notice what you think and feel and you’ll likely be surprised by yourself.

Unique Idea Four: Dance Like No One is Watching

Remember how much fun it used to be to blare music and just sing and dance? Why not indulge your inner fifteen year old and play your favourite tunes from back in the day and dance? Fifteen minutes of this will leave you laughing and feeling great.

Unique Idea Four: Go on a Shopping Spree

Do you have clothes that don’t fit? I know you do. Are you hanging on to them in the hopes of losing weight and getting into those jeans again? I sure am. Do these clothes that don’t fit make you feel guilty and just generally bad about yourself? Honestly, it’s time to ditch those clothes and go on a shopping spree. I am not talking about spending hundreds of dollars, but you do deserve to have clothes that you love that fit you right now. So do buy three or four outfits or items that you can pair easily and feel good about yourself again. You totally deserve to spend the money on yourself and to feel amazing.

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Unique Idea Five: Girls Night Out

I always roll my eyes at this idea, because I feel like I am not the type of woman who gets together with friends to go dancing and drinking. I guess I have this impression when I hear the phrase “girls night out” but getting together with your girlfriends doesn’t have to look this way. It can of course, but it also just be dinner or a movie night at someone’s house. A chance to catch up with good friends is always beneficial as it makes you feel connected and remember that there is more to life than work and chores.

Unique Idea Six: Get Creative

Let’s get creative ladies! We may be approaching middle age but that doesn’t mean we can’t find our inner child or artist. Learn a new creative skill such as candle or soap making, calligraphy or flower arranging. Imagine being able to create your own gifts for family and friends, and to add these items to your home decor.

Unique Idea Seven: Sign Up for a Meal Delivery Box

Cooking can be a real chore, especially after a long day at work. You have to have a meal in mind, prep everything, cook it, and then there is clean up. Plus all the time you spent doing groceries. Why not sign up for a meal delivery box like Hello Fresh or Good Food? The kits include recipes of your choice, fresh food and takes the headache out of home cooking. Subscriptions are pretty flexible as you can pause or cancel at any time, and the cost isn’t extraordinary.

Unique Idea Eight: Clear the Clutter

I am not talking about diving into a big declutter of clothes and items you don’t want or need. I’m talking about clearing off countertops and dressers. Put away the magazines no one is looking at, find a home for the remote controls, clear off your kitchen counters of things like knife blocks and appliances you hardly use. Having a clear space is restful to the mind and benefits your mental health.

Unique Idea Nine: Cuddle Time

Make some time to cuddle. It could be with your lover, your kids or pets, or even just a super soft and cozy blanket, or a weighted blanket. Cuddle up and talk, watch a movie together or indulge in a cup of hot chocolate or herbal tea. Physical contact is super important to humans as it lower blood pressure, improves our immune system and releases oxytocin. I find that often we let the day pass without really spending time with those we love, that instead we allow distractions such as emails and social media to take up hours of our time. Cuddle time will leave us feeling so much better, so why not indulge?

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Unique Idea Ten: Make a Gratitude List

Make a list of all the little things that happened in your day that were amazing. The package that arrived, the text from your partner saying I love you, the yummy latte from Starbucks a friend bought you–whatever it is, write it down. Too often we focus on the negative things, the things that went wrong, and don’t give a second thought to the good things that happened in our day. Writing them down is a great way to acknowledge that life is beautiful.

I hope you have been inspired to take the leap into self care, and have found some new ways to incorporate self care into your life.

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    18 Comments

    • reagan henderson says:
      October 30, 2020 at 3:00 pm

      Love this! Getting a meal kit is a good idea for me. Also cleaning out clutter is something I do to feel balanced. I’m thinking of getting a house cleaner because it would take some weight off me, too.

      Reply
      • Giulia says:
        October 31, 2020 at 5:21 pm

        Those are all great things to do! If we can afford to, or can budget for these things, why not? Life is so stressful without the second or third job of being a cook/maid. Glad you enjoyed the post darling!

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    • Sue Berk Koch says:
      October 30, 2020 at 10:17 pm

      I’ve been trying to clear clutter lately and am surprised by how much better I feel! Thanks for the other suggestions.

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      • Giulia says:
        October 31, 2020 at 5:20 pm

        Yes, removing clutter is soooo good for you. Clutter actually increases anxiety.

        Reply
    • Jaya Avendel says:
      October 31, 2020 at 8:16 pm

      I love that your list has a handful of ideas new to me. I personally love dancing like no one is watching; moving with wild abandon and feeling the song of music is so refreshing to me. 🙂

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      • Giulia says:
        October 31, 2020 at 8:22 pm

        Oh wow, I’m glad it resonated with you. I mean, why not? We did it when we were teens!

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        • Jaya Avendel says:
          October 31, 2020 at 8:24 pm

          The happiest times of my life are my teens!

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          • Giulia says:
            October 31, 2020 at 8:26 pm

            I think at the time, I didn’t think much of those years, but they were definitely way better than later years LOL

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    • Lisa M. Alioto says:
      November 1, 2020 at 3:15 pm

      Loved your list – I’m in my forties and it’s a great one for me

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      • Giulia says:
        November 1, 2020 at 3:17 pm

        I am so glad it resonated with someone in the age group! xo

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    • Sophie says:
      November 1, 2020 at 11:13 pm

      This is a great list, definitely a few things here that I haven’t read elsewhere too which is great. My mum started getting into adult colouring books in her late forties, she said it was really calming for her. I’m quite partial to the shopping spree method myself 😂 x
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      • Giulia says:
        November 2, 2020 at 1:54 am

        I’m having fun with my own colouring books and I am thinking of a little investment of my own as a treat from leftover money from my bridal shower, hehehehe

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    • Lisa says:
      November 2, 2020 at 3:40 pm

      Your last point about a gratitude journal resonates so strongly with me – it’s something I started doing this year and yes, it really does help. Some fab other tips here as well, thank you 🙂

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      • Giulia says:
        November 2, 2020 at 11:38 pm

        Glad it resonated with you! Us almost middle aged ladies need self care too!

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    • Britt K says:
      November 14, 2020 at 3:11 pm

      Nothing relaxes me as much as a little cuddle time with our pets. There are actually studies showing the connection between petting an animal and a reduction in stress!
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      • Giulia says:
        November 14, 2020 at 5:57 pm

        Yes, there are definitely an amazing way to reduce stress. I love petting my bunny.

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      November 14, 2020 at 11:44 pm

      Great suggestions! I love my Salt Lamp. It always makes me feel calmer.
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        I love mine too!

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