We all talk to ourselves. Inside our heads, we always telling ourselves all sorts of things, asking ourselves questions. What should I have for lunch? What did they think of me at the job interview? Did I just sound really stupid? I’m too fat. I never look that good. I’m a bad mother. All of this and so much more can run through our heads throughout the day. Much of our self talk is negative. Keep reading because I have a freebie for you today!
What is Self Talk?
So let’s step back a moment and look at self talk. What is it? As I’ve already implied, self talk is something you naturally do any time you are awake. It’s like a conversation you have with yourself, and if that is a positive conversation then your mood and confidence is high and happy. However, if it’s more critical, or negative, then you’re likely going to second guess yourself, feel badly about yourself and your abilities and not be very confident. Some people are naturally good at self talk, but many of us need to learn to curb those negative conversations.
Changing Your Self Talk with Affirmations
But affirmations can change our self talk. By changing your self talk with simple affirmations you can change your mindset because affirmations challenge those unhelpful and negative thoughts. If you’ve ever kept a gratitude journal, you know that focusing on the positive makes a huge difference in how you feel about your day. Affirmations have that same power. Telling yourself, you’ve got this isn’t just a trend, it’s a way of reminding yourself that you can handle a lot of what life is throwing your way.
I want to share you the type of affirmations I find powerful, because if they are helpful for me they might be helpful for you as well. Keep in mind that affirmations should include I, my, me, but not don’t, can’t, won’t. Remember, the idea is to be positive. I’ll list some examples of affirmations that help me when my self talk turns negative.
These affirmations help me when I’m feeling anxious or my mind starts spiralling into negative self talk. It’s important for me to take a mental step back when that starts happening and some of this kind of talk really helps me gain understanding into why I’m spiralling.
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This kind of language not only challenges self talk that is de-moralizing, but can help you focus on what you’ve learned from your mistakes, from the past and to focus on how much you’ve grown and identify positives in your life. When you change the way you talk to yourself, you start to see yourself differently and over time that helps you in better understanding yourself, as well as liking yourself better.
I have to say, I never realized how much self talk affected me. I was too entrenched in the negative emotions and stress to really realize that I was telling myself I was “bad” in so many ways resulting me in behaving in ways that were “bad” and making me feel even worse. Clearing my head took a while and now I realize how powerful self talk truly is, and why we need to be kind to ourselves, and love ourselves.
How do we make affirmations a daily habit? Some people do this in a journal, others might take some time to look in the mirror and say these positive phrases to themselves. You could also practice this as a meditation. There are videos on Youtube to help you with this. Or, you might create a sort of vision board where you place some photos and quotes that focus on your goals. Having this board as a daily visual reminder can be very powerful.
There is really no right or wrong way to practice affirmations. It is a personal choice, and should be one that suits you.
Life is too short and precious, and should not be lived with feelings of disharmony and unhappiness. We can only work on bettering the world by bettering ourselves, and first of all that means learning to care and love ourselves. In doing so, we understand who we are and what we can do for others. I have always sought to help others, and I believe I have helped others in the past. But now that I am more authentically myself I know that I making a bigger difference than I was before, and part of that is because I am more confident in what I can achieve, for myself and for others. You deserve to like yourself, to respect yourself. So change your self talk through affirmations!
What affirmations are powerful for you? Share in the comments.